I just had a very odd chat on omegle, I put my interest as “feminism”. Here’s one section I found slightly disturbing. It went on for a while, maybe I’ll add the whole chat to a “Read More” post.
I mean he’s actually trying to compare MURDER AND RAPE to “killing a man’s heart”.
I’d laugh if this wasn’t so terrifying.
What’s most frightening about this is that he’s not even saying that “men get raped and murdered because of the friendzone”, he’s saying “men rape and murder women because of the friendzone”. He says “the friendzone is as bad to men as being raped and murdered is to women” And the other person goes “how so?” And they respond with “Women can get raped and murdered by men who have been friendzoned.”
So let’s see. According to this guy: men rape and kill women. Women friendzone men. Men rape and kill women more.
Yes. What a deadly and powerful weapon women have to threaten men with.
I also love how he uses male violence against women as proof of how badly men are hurt. So many rapists and abusers have this justification used to defend them. They would NEVER abuse or rape if their victim didn’t MAKE them, if their victim didn’t ANGER them, if their victim didn’t LEAD THEM ON. -_- That they did such a horrible thing is PROOF that their victim did an even more horrible thing to them!
What a way to begin an acceptance speech. Lupita has made sure that we never forget the sufferings of Patsey and Solomon, and thus the millions of enslaved Africans who were dehumanized in one of the greatest crimes against humanity in the history of the world.
Unspeakable crimes that have gone largely unpunished. How can people scream ‘post-racialism’, ‘non-racialism’ and other ignorant statements when justice, if true justice can ever be attained for such acts, is yet to be achieved?
Didn’t mean to derail from Lupita’s acceptance speech but as important as her win is, so to is the vessel that brought her there - the story of Solomon Northup.
I’m trying to think what to make of this…is it calling our rich white people like Brad and Angelina who seem to collect children of color? Or is it diminishing Lupita’s success? Sigh. I dunno…
This person is a bisexual MOC, something he thinks gives him the right to talk about women in a derogatory fashion. This is just the latest in a string of misogyny. He doesn’t even know this girl.
Jared Leto has been winning multiple awards for playing the transgender character of Rayon in the film “Dallas Buyers Club.” The transgender community has then watched him throw them under the bus.
1. LETO: "It was the role of a lifetime," he said. "It was an incredible thing to represent this group of people who largely are ignored."
Ignored. Leto ignored criticism from the trans community and allies who don’t want him representing this group of people in the way he has been. "wouldn’t it have been better if the starring role had gone to an actual trans person" - La Times. Despite complaints and Leto having one of the most powerful publicists in Hollywood, Leto claimed in December that he had never heard criticisms that trans roles should go to trans actors. When asked what research he did for the role he said “a lot” but he did not formally engage, pay, or study under any trans people.
Transgender roles should go to transgender actors and if that is not possible (for whatever reason) productions should hire transgender consultants to “get it right” instead of perpetuating negative stereotypes.
Jared ignores this:
2. LETO: "you wouldn’t want to stick a transgender person with only transgender roles, so it goes both ways."
Transgender people DO NOT GET cisgender roles. It does not go both ways due to systemic oppression. Cisgender people take transgender roles then do what Leto is doing instead of the advocating and “possibility modeling” of Laverne Cox in “Orange is the New Black.” She represents trans people beyond the screen role in the media in positive ways never experienced before. This creates “teachable moments” as Katie Couric put it after her problematic questioning. When a cis person takes a trans role, trans stories are exploitation, not representation.
Meanwhile, Trans Hollywood’s experience is that trans people are often told they do not have enough experience for key roles. It’s a systemic problem, cis people take trans roles, trans actors are left with nothing.
3. "I thought I’d look pretty good in a skirt."
No Jared, the character of Rayon is fictional in this film “based on a true story.” She was ahistorically written in order to be the “most gay” and visually problematic for Matthew McConaughey’s character Ron Woodroof. You removed your eyebrows (?) and played her with intense makeup, hair, and clothing to make Ron uncomfortable and a very unlikely ally.
You weren’t there to look good, you were there to look bad. You are perpetuating the “man in a dress” stereotype of transgender women.
What if the role had gone to these transgender women? Would the theater laughed as hard at Ron ripping down Rayon’s photo while masturbating? How would the supermarket scene have played out if Ron was just seen walking around with a beautiful woman vs. a straight cis male playing….what…..
4.LETO: ”This wonderful creature who was unfortunately addicted to drugs and dying of AIDS and fighting for her life.” and “beautiful creature….”
While you’ve made it clear in interviews that Rayon was living life as a woman and wanted trans related medial care but you don’t talk about playing a woman or trans woman. You talk about playing a “creature.” USE THE WORDS “TRANSGENDER WOMAN.” Again, how do you feel you are representing “this group of people” if you never use the terminology? If you call one of us a creature. We don’t want you up there Jared if you are just going to be a bro about it.
5. LETO: ”It’s wild, even putting on lipstick is a very shocking thing, [and] putting on heels is a very shocking thing, putting on tights is a shocking thing” “. One of the things I did was wax my entire body including my eyebrows,’ 'I'm just fortunate that it wasn't a period piece so I didn't have to do a full Brazilian [wax]. 'Ladies, you know what I'm talking about though…and so do some of you men, I think.'
All superficial gendering. People are not giving the award to rockstar Jared Leto who talks about how weird it is to do things femme cis women and femme trans women do every day. They gave it to what seemed like a serious actor in a demanding role. Jared did not use the role as a learning moment to be forever changed by trans struggle. Instead he jokes about it like a cis man does, it’s trans misogyny. When asked about leaving the role behind….
6. LETO “I tucked those balls firmly away… I’m still coughing them out.”
Come on, is he our drunk uncle making fun of us? And on criticism for his Golden Globe’s speech…
7. LETO “obviously I didn’t prepare a speech.”
But he did! He gave nearly the identical speech at the Hollywood Film Awards.
Hollywood Film Awards Speech:
Golden Globes Speech:
This led to proper criticism over the transphobia and exploitation:
Jared Leto and Michael Douglas’ Homophobic Acceptance Speeches
The Golden Globes gave Jared Leto an award for playing a trans woman because Hollywood is terrible.
So is anything changing? YES!. Leto’s SAG AWARD Speech dispensed with the cheap jokes and had some class, dedicating the award to the groups he borrowed emotional equity from instead of being about himself, his waxing, and his return to film after six years, and the great parties:
8. LETO: " I’d like to share it with the Rayons of the world. To the people who have made a choice to live their lives … as they have chosen to dream it. I’m so proud that i’ve been able to glimpse the world through your eyes."
There is learning happening but it seems more as a response to backlash than actual learning or community. What is next? We do not identify as “Rayons.” Say the word “TRANSGENDER.” We appreciate the attempt at recognizing a marginalized group but Leto is avoiding our self identity, making up his own point of view on what we are and should be called. We are organizing so this learning curve never happens again. We need trans actors in trans roles for visibility, representation, and positive models instead of wanting to vomit listening to a cis man make fun of us. We don’t want to be writing Tumblr posts and articles defending ourself from a person who thinks they are representing us. While in this period of civil rights, we want to see ourselves truly represented and moving forward.
False equivalence is saying that the slave who regards his slave master with contempt is as bad as the slave master. Empathy tells you that is not true. Stop shaming marginalized people by forcing the to abide my “we’re all the human race” ideals. We should have thought of that BEFORE creating a society with so much indifference and discrimination.
1. “Do you like when I…?”
2. “I like when you…”
3. “Will you…?”
4. “How does this feel?”
5. “Do you want me to…?”
6. “Do you want to…?”
7. “Is there anything you want to try?”
8. “Show me what you like.”
9. “Do you want to go further?”
10. “Do you want to stop?”
11. “Can I…?”
12. “Does this feel good?”
13. “Are you happy?”
14. “Are you comfortable?”
15. “Are you having a good time?”
16. “Is this good for you?”
I love this list…and here’s why.
Sooooo we closed on our house today! It has happened! We are homeowners!
That said, I’m in the process of moving for a few days and switching Internet service and such, so submission publishing (etc) will be slow.
So yeah, an image of the foetus with a handbag on a banner in the garage.Tell all your aunts that you’re expecting a girl.
About the rape threats post a page or so back. I have seen this as well. I reported a few FB posts on feminist sites that were talking about raping “slutty” girls. FB did not remove them because nothing was wrong with them. However my post on a Chevrolet page mocking the religious assholes upset they featured homosexual couples in their add got me banned for 12 hours. I was being facetious and talking about my heterosexual rights be trumped on and now I won’t get married now and was pretty much like “OH THE HUMANITY!!!!” Like I wish FB could take rape threats or laughing about rape more seriously.
Seeing that this was shared from George Takei was extremely disappointing. Seeing who shared it was too.
Takei has been featured here a couple of times. He might be a gay man of color, but he still fucks up with misogyny on the reg. And a rape joke here, I guess. Sigh.
I hope you don’t mind me taking your submission as a time to use one of my favorite gifs.
What a creep…take a hint, dude.